Tinder Girls: Wants, Types, and Needs [Full Guide for Men]

There are all sorts of girls on Tinder that you’ll meet.

From girls looking for something serious, to those seeking a fun night, to true conversationalists, you’ll encounter them all as you navigate the dating scene. As a man, regardless of what these girls on Tinder are looking for, you should be able to understand a few things about your match: the type of woman you're talking to, what they might want from you, and how you, as someone potentially looking for something more, can meet their needs.

To help you with that, we’ve crafted this guide for men that can tell you all about the different needs and wants of women on Tinder.

Let’s get into it!

What are the Different Types of Girls on Tinder?

Before we can talk about what a girl wants on Tinder, we first need to understand that there are different types of girls on the app. Although every person is shaped by their unique history and experiences, it helps to find common archetypes by which to distinguish them and simplify the conversation.

Here’s the list:

1. The No-Show

Usually, this is someone you clicked well with online, but every time you try to either schedule a date or grab a coffee, she just can’t seem to find the time. You’ll hear various excuses why she’s busy, which may or may not be true, but the fact is that you won’t get to see her in real life. Cut your losses and accept that if she wanted to see you, she would have made the time.

2. The “Forced-To-Make-Tinder”

A girl that will match you, but will rarely respond with any enthusiasm, and every conversation feels forced. Usually, she’ll tell you that her friends forced her to make a Tinder to find a match, but she doesn’t believe in online dating.

Often, these matches don’t lead to anything, but if you do manage to go for a drink, you might have a good time. This person has low expectations, so it can be easier to show that there are quality guys just a click away.

3. The “You’re Too Short, Bye”

Unfortunately, it seems that so many people on these dating sites care about shallow attributes like height. You’ll find these girls listing the minimum height they expect from a man on their Tinder bio.

So, if you’re under this minimum, you won’t have a lot of luck here. And, don’t even try hiding your height because she’ll probably start the conversation with a “How tall are you?”.

A shallow standard, but if you do meet these “requirements” you could see where your conversation takes you.

4. The Machine

Ever texted a girl and got a message back with some kind of link? Yeah, that’s not really a person, that’s most likely just a Tinder bot or a catfish. Avoid these at all times, and DO NOT click that link!

5. The One Who Never Responds

How many women have you matched with on Tinder? Tens, dozens, hundreds? Of these, only a small percentage actually reply to your first messages, no matter who you are.

This is the type of girl that either swipes everyone, or just doesn’t appreciate your fire icebreaker. Keep moving right along to other great matches.

6. The Dater

These girls might be a bit rarer in the online dating world, but they do exist! The type that will push towards a date rather than chatting you up on Tinder.

They’ll often go on a date, but of course, it’s rare that those dates will turn into something romantic. Either way, it’s much better than texting, and if it doesn’t turn into a romantic relationship, you might at least find a new friend. It’s also a great opportunity to practice all your best pick up lines!

7. The One That Hates Hookups

The ones who are adamant about just how bad hookups are, and that settling down is much more important. But, it seems that dates with these girls usually end up in hookups rather than anything more. They can’t quite break their old habits, no matter how much they might say otherwise.

8. The Magician

No, we’re not talking about the one that will pull a rabbit out of her top hat, even though that would be pretty cool to see. Instead, we’re talking about the girl you’ll be chatting with every day and night for weeks, then will suddenly up and disappear.

She’ll either respond after a very long time (read: once you get married), or she’ll never appear again. Life happens and people do get busy, or she was never very serious to begin with.

9. The Incognito

She’s chatty, she’s fun, and she laughs at all your jokes. She’s perfect, but the problem is that she does not have any photos of herself on her profile. So, you have a great conversation, but going on a date with an incognito can be a gamble. You could be getting catfished, or it could be somebody looking to build a relationship and then pull a scam.

10. The Text Spammer

There’s an unwritten rule on Tinder that you should never double-text. It comes off as needy or clingy. This is especially true for new matches.

However, this is the type of woman who doesn’t really care about this rule, so she’ll start spamming you with all kinds of messages even from the start. Remember to be yourself, don’t just mirror what she’s giving you. Also show clear boundaries to your time or energy, remember that being mysterious or disciplined can often be an attractive quality to women.

What Do These Girls on Tinder Want?

So, we covered some of the various types of girls you can find on Tinder. But, to take your conversations with women further, you’ll need to understand what they actually want from men and Tinder in general.

Let’s look at some factors women often consider on the platform:

Strong Profile

Believe it or not, Tinder bios are actually very effective when it comes to matching, conversation, etc.

That is why women are looking for men who have built a strong profile with the right Tinder bio.

If a profile lacks quality photos, selfies, and has a generic, copy-pasted bio, girls will probably just swipe left, or never respond.

The Right Conversation Starter

While it might seem like building the right Tinder bio or uploading the perfect photos is the key to getting replies from girls, what really stands out is the conversation starter.

The fact is that dozens of attractive men match with just one girl, so she probably doesn’t have time to respond to every single one. This is where a strong conversation starter can be useful.

Being Straight To The Point

As we mentioned, women get a lot of  “contenders”, and chatting with every single one to find the one that’s “boyfriend material” will take an unreasonable amount of time. They want shortcuts.

So, that’s why women are looking for more straightforward chats. They don’t want to waste days or weeks chatting with men that won’t even lead to a date.

How Do I Meet the Needs of These Tinder Girls?

You’re slowly getting familiar with the needs and wants of Tinder girls. But, we now need to tackle the challenge of meeting their needs.

It might seem daunting at first, but with our guidance, you should be able to figure it out!

Rework Your Tinder Profile

We mentioned just how important a good Tinder profile is for women. It is one of their main factors, so, if you haven’t worked on it recently, it’s time to revamp it.

Try playing around with your Tinder bio to make your profile a bit more noticeable and unique. You can try our free Profile Writer service if you need help writing your bio.

Next, you can work on uploading new photos that show you in your best light. You can also utilize our AI Photos services to further optimize your selfies!

Find The Right Opener

There are so many conversation starters out there, but only a few of them will get you a reply. To increase the number of replies you get from girls, consider using unique Tinder openers.

Or, you can try collecting as much info as you can from her photos and bio so you can further customize your opener.

Don’t Be Afraid To Take The Next Step

It seems that Tinder conversations often end up just being texting. This is because both parties are not willing to take the next step to go on a drink.

Women are looking for a more straightforward approach to dating, so don’t be afraid to propose a dinner date, drinks, or something more casual like a coffee break. Whatever you feel most comfortable with.

Your match will definitely appreciate your forwardness, and you’ll most likely get a “yes” for your proposal.

Conclusion

Describing every single need and want that women possess into a single guide is not really possible. Humans are complex creatures and want different things in life.

However, we also have a lot of similarities, and the needs and wants we listed above are those common similarities, especially between girls.

So, if you keep these things in mind, you will most likely get more replies moving forward.

If you want to advance your online dating skills even further, consider checking out our blog. Alternatively, you can download our AI Dating Assistant to guide you in how to respond in certain situations.